Now i made a new deco and the one i missed so i fixed the problem.
This made me decide to quit some groups, i can't keep up with the swaps anymore and it is all my own fault.
I will go back to my basic groups the ones i started with and the ones i feel happy about so i hope that will help.
There are sooo manny nice groups and every time i get invited i feel like joining. I figured out how not to get more invites to protect myself so that is a good thing too, lol